If you know me you’ll know that I’m coming to the end of my PhD, and with that I have some big decisions to make. I went into my PhD believing that I’d be fighting to rise through the ranks of academia, but it’s probably not a surprise to many of you that academia has made me change my mind! I have many thoughts about what I don’t want to do next but I still don’t know what I do want to do. I am of course trawling the internet, chatting to colleagues, seeing a careers advisor and keeping my mind open. But times like these always have me coming back to my three favourite ways to make decisions.
Write a ‘pros and cons’ list
I LOVE writing lists. Lists of things to do, lists of places I want to go, lists of places I’ve been, lists containing my innermost hopes and dreams…lists of pros and cons! For decisions as nebulous as the one I’m making now about which paths I might follow post-PhD, I’m focusing on lists of wants and dreams (life and career-wise) and lists of potential avenues or employers to investigate. As I start honing in on a couple of opportunities though you can bet that I’ll be writing out lists of pros and cons to sift through my thoughts and see the reality in ink. Sometimes I’ve wanted to want something so badly that I didn’t even realise that the cons far outweigh the pros.
Meditate
Now, I’m not super proficient at meditation so I’m not going to proclaim that I can easily clear my mind and sink into a personal pocket of zen, but I can do enough to achieve ‘some’ clarity! I’m sure it’s not just me that finds that when I have big decisions to make my mind gets BUSY. There are so many expectations to deal with (real or imagined!) and sometimes I find they start to smother the little voice that deep down knows what I really want. Meditation just gives me an uninterrupted moment with myself where that little voice has an opportunity to become a bit louder. I’m not saying that I have an epiphany every time I sit cross-legged on my yoga mat but I do always feel a little calmer and a little more centred afterwards.
Flip a coin
Flipping a coin only really works when you have a yes/no or one/the other decision to make. I won’t be using this tactic until I’ve majorly narrowed down my options or maybe even have an offer (or two) on the table. Basically you flip a coin and allow the coin to make your decision. That gut feeling you have when you see how the coin has landed tells you a lot about what you really think and feel about a decision. I like to think I know myself but my gut feeling over a coin toss has really surprised me in the past!
So, these are my top three ways to make a decision. I know they’re not groundbreaking but sometimes I think the simplest solutions are the best. Let me know what you think of them and if you have any others that you find helpful. Good luck if you’re in the middle of making any big decisions yourself.
(I actually wrote this back in 2019 for a university blog that fell through…but now I’m back in the office and therefore back working in cafes I thought why not publish this finally on my own blog!)
I don’t know about you but I appreciate a change of scenery and find it difficult to sit and work in the same place for hours or days on end. I get fidgety, I start to worry that I’m bothering my colleagues, I get distracted and then I just start wasting time. As such, I’ve already sussed out a handful of cafes around Aberdeen that I love to work in. Sometimes I just go to one before or after some office time, sometimes I spend the whole day away and take myself on a little café circuit. Strangely that almost feels like a little holiday. I’m a great believer in the saying ‘a change is as good as a rest’.
Short disclaimer – obviously check with your supervisor that it’s okay for you to go AWOL for a day. Open and honest communication between you and your supervisors is key but every supervisory relationship is different.
My first café stop is the Union Café and bistro on the corner of Union Street and Shiprow. From mine I can walk past two of my favourite sculptures in Aberdeen to get there. The giant cat perched up above the restaurants opposite the Marischal College and the Nuart piece of the little men perched near or on balcony’s on the side of The Illicit Still. Once at the Union Café I like to sit on the high chairs by the window so that I can people watch in between working. I’ve only had coffee and cake there before but they have an extensive range of cakes, some of which are more inventive flavours than those you’d normally find. I had a great piece of rose and pistachio cake in there once.
When I’m ready to stretch my legs or go for another coffee/snack I potter down to Contour Café in The Green. This is really close to the harbour so if I’m in need of a little fresh air and a walk I go and have a look at the ships. I appreciate that this isn’t every ones cup of tea but I briefly worked in the merchant navy on a standby vessel and some of that interest still lingers. There is actually a ship tracking app which lets you know which vessels are in harbour so that you can go and visit any favourite ships. Some of them have pretty cool patterns painted on their bows or interesting names and you start to learn who the regulars are. It’s pretty much train spotting but with ships. Don’t judge me! So, once I’ve appropriately nerded out in the harbour I grab any seat I can in Contour Café. There are some quite big tables in there to spread out on and they’d work pretty well for a group meeting. This place has THE best vegan sausage baps with ketchup. I don’t know if it’s the fresh bread or the sausages or the love that they’re made with but they’re just so good. I’ve tried lots of other things in there and they’re all nice but I always come back to the vegan sausage bap. They also do 10% student discount (or at least they did when I wrote this in 2019!).
After leaving Contour and on my way to Food Story I’m greeted by my favourite door in the Painted Doors Project. I heard two American tourists describe it as disturbing once, but to me, a doughnut worshipper, there is nothing better than two glazed parent doughnuts cradling a baby doughnut. Food Story is on Thistle street just off Union Street. The walk between the two is perfect for me to pop into any shops that I’d rather avoid on a weekend. Food story has great food, great coffee and a great atmosphere but one of the reasons it stands out for me is it’s bulk shop upstairs and it’s all round efforts towards sustainability. The store upstairs sells bulk grains, spices, beans, pasta (including gluten free), cereals, dried fruit and although I’m not sure if they do it at the moment I’ve got both olive oil and balsamic vinegar in there too. The staff are really relaxed, helpful and friendly so they’re more than happy to help you figure out the weighing system and answer any questions on how to move towards a more sustainable lifestyle. In case you’re a die-hard carnivore that can’t contemplate a single meal without the addition of something meaty you unfortunately (for you) won’t find that here, there is some dairy though. I think it’s probably also the most child and dog friendly of the places that I go to but seen as I have neither one of those it’s a little hard for me to judge properly.
After I’ve worked in Food Story and decided that it’s time to move on I pop over to Cup on Gaelic Lane off Belmont Street. Cup splits opinion a little in that many of my friends feel that it’s too busy in there to work…I guess maybe you have to time it well. I like the background noise though and the hustle of general activity. Just down the street from Cup there’s also a really great shop nearby called MacBeans that sells loose leaf teas and coffee beans. Treating myself to a nice new coffee that I can share with my colleagues (we’re all coffee fiends) is normally enough to lure me back up to the zoology department!
It’s probably worth noting that I never really use wifi when I’m working in a café so I have absolutely no idea of the wifi capabilities or speeds in any of these places. I just come armed with a pile of papers and make sure the things I want to work on are downloaded and offline. It probably doesn’t need to be said but I obviously buy something in every place I work in and try not to overstay my welcome, but I’ve never felt in any of these places that me working away was bothering anyone.
For a bonus ‘out of the office’ working location I love Brewdog on Gallowgate for the early evening. They make incredible pizzas and although I don’t suggest it’s a good work/life balance ethic to work into the evening I have enjoyed dinner and a bit of reading or writing in there on occasion. They have really big windows for people-watching and the window tables leave you feeling a little cosy and tucked away. There are always dogs in Brewdog too and that’s great for the morale, right?!